Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Last Class

Well, we're done with MAPP classes now! Next week will be our last official meeting, but it's basically a dinner and panel of experts discussing all aspects of foster care and adoption. I'm hoping that my parents will be up to coming that night. So now we're just waiting until our home study is done which can take up to 90 days from when we turned in our paperwork back on the 17th of June. I'm praying that it won't take that long to finish and get a baby placed with us. Tonight was a good class and a lot of open discussions on bonds, attachments to birth families, and fostering in general. I found it interesting and kind of sad that some people really couldn't grasp the fact that we live in the south, and it might not be the best for a child to be dropped into a close knit community full of people of another race that's not used to having anyone "different" living with them. The social workers kept trying to explain it to them, but they just weren't getting it. One of the CW told a story about a set of biracial twin babies that were placed in an all white close minded community. The case worker ended up picking the kids up about an hour after he left because the foster parent called and said that they didn't think it would work because the kids were biracial. One why didn't the foster parent just say that before the CW drove an hour to bring the kids? You should know in your heart what you can and can't handle when it comes to something like race. It's one of the 1st things people notice. It's not like it's something you learn later when you meet someone face to face! I know it's probably wrong, but I hope that Rob and I being an interracial couple will play in our favor. We've got both cultures in one home, and all of our extended family has no problem with it. So I guess the waiting game really begins now.

3 comments:

Mindy said...

Congratulations!! I hope they can get your home study done quickly!!

Mrs. JDM3 said...

Congratulations and good luck! I hope the hope study is done quickly and you are caring for a beautiful baby soon!

Kristine said...

Congratulations on your accomplishment! My husband and I also went through MAPP classes, but in So. California. We also heard stories like the one you tell about the biracial twins. I do feel that your experiences will work in your favor, but most of all the fact that you have open hearts will make you great parents. Good luck with everything! We are waiting for our match, and waiting is definitely the hardest part. It helps to read about other people's experiences/hopes/disappointments/successes with adoption.

Kristine