Wednesday, March 11, 2009

A lot happened to me today. I hadn't blogged about the fact that we got called last week about possibly adopting a baby that is due this week. We were in the running with another couple. This would be the 4th baby that the 27 year old BM was putting up for adoption. It would be handled by a agency down south which contacted our agency to see if they had any families that would take a full African American baby. We were very hopeful that this one would work out for us.

Our adoption worker from BCH called me this morning to say that the birth mother was being presented with our profiles and letters today to make her final decision. She wanted to know more about us. So I hurriedly wrote another letter to tell her more about our likes, hobbies, faith, church involvement, and what type of adoption we would prefer. I had less than an hour to write this letter.

Our adoption worker from BCH called to tell me that the birth mother really liked us, but chose the other couple because she was more familiar with where they live. She doesn't know the area where we are. The BM had a hard time choosing between us. I guess that's a way to make the decision on who should raise your child, but it's not one I would choose if I were in that situation. When our worker called I could tell she was on the verge of tears. She felt so bad because she feels like she's always getting our hopes up only to give us bad news. I told her that we were fine. We know that when we're called for the child that's meant to be with us, it will all work out. I know that everything will be decided in God's time, not our time.

Today, we had our annual performance reviews out of no where. We usually get a couple of days notice, but this time I got my meeting notice 10 minutes before the meeting. But I was pleasantly surprised to find out that I'm being promoted to Analyst II. I was shocked actually. I'm glad that all my hard work is being noticed. I got a great raise too. I was smiling from ear to ear all day. Rob and I are going out Saturday to celebrate.

Today was a good day.


Carrie said...

Sorry to hear that this adoption didn't work out, but congrats on the promotion!

mesa said...

hey Ashley- sorry this situation didn't work but you seem to have a good head on your shoulders about it. the thing that kept me going was thinking regardless who the birth mom chooses that child is going to a good family you just have to wait for the one that is totally meant to be yours...they will come.
(((((((HUGE BIG LONG HUGS))))))))
congrats on the nice promotion!

armyadamsgirl said...

congrats on the promotion!!! That's great..

as for the baby..i am truly sorry..

niobe said...

Glad to hear about the promotion!

And, while I'm sure you're right -- that everything will work out when you get the call for the child that's meant to be yours -- I'm sorry that this wasn't the one...