Sunday, June 7, 2009

Permanency

This Wednesday is Fuzzy's permanency meeting. I'm getting nervous. This point has always been so far away and now it's looming in front of me. I'm going alone due to work constraints for Rob. I'm not even sure what I'm walking into. I know that the BM will not be there. I know that Fuzzy's lawyer, BM's lawyer, Dad's lawyer, CW, her supervisor, and an adoptions unit worker should be there. But that's about it. I've had some people tell me that it will be just like the family team conferences, but I'm not sure. The CW had said 2 different things to me about the meeting. One day she told me that they were not going to recommend that the BM get any additional time to work her case plan and recommend TPR for a court date in August. But about a week later she said that they will probably recommend for her to get another 6 months. WTF? How can things change in a week? I don't trust them to do things in Fuzzy's best interest even though they claim that they will. She's had a year to work her plan and they've been helping her along the way yet she has been going against them and doing things "her way". I would do anything for Fuzzy so why is it so hard for her to follow directions for him? Why keep giving her chances? Will you let him spend the years and years in foster care just to keep giving her chances to do what she needs to do for him?

3 comments:

armyadamsgirl said...

i am praying for ya'll. please keep us posted on how it goes. The thing that sucks about foster care is them always giving the parents years and years to do the right thing and all the time the children are left twisting in the wind.

Dream Mommy said...

They may reccomend TPR, but just warning, you may have 2-3 more 6 mo follow up hearings to attend before you get an actual TPR date. TPR hearings sometimes get cancelled and postponed. Good news...when they reccommend TPR, they usually get it.

Another good sign, Fuzzy's parents not attending is not going to look good for them. It's a long process, but with each 6 mos, chances of going home diminish.

Hang in there. I know it's tough.

Maddie's Mom said...

The CW acted like it was normal for the parents to not attend. I don't think they were even invited. She said that they would call her into the office afterward to tell her what has been decided. Is that odd? Also is there anything I need to bring with me? CW said this is our chance to voice our opinion on his case.