Tuesday, June 9, 2009

I'm in a state of anger, confusion, fear, and just plain pissed off right now. Fuzzy's permanency meeting was supposed to be tomorrow morninng. But at noon today I found out that they moved it to this morning and I fucking missed it. Yep, they fucking moved a meeting that was supposed to have 4 lawyers and several other people in an hour. This is what the CW said on her message she left on my cell phone. She called my damn cell phone while I was at work even though I've told her over and over to call my office during work hours. I don't keep my cell phone on my desk because everyone with a brain calls me at work! So I didn't know that she called me at 8:05 and 8:39 to tell me about a meeting at 9. That bitch will get hers one of these days. I hate her! She has screwed us over too much. Rob is under the impression that the BM and the CW are friends that's why shit like this happens. I know that I do feel like it was done on purpose to keep me from being able to be there and voicing my opinion on the case. It doesn't help that a couple of weeks ago she sat in our living room and told us that they were not going to give the BM extension because there was no reason why she couldn't have worked her plan. But then a week later she was talking about recommending the BM get another 6 months. So guess fucking what....the BM gets another 6 months. Yep, Fuzzy will be a year and half by then. We're all the family he knows, but that doesn't matter to anyone. Just because BM squeezed him out does not make her the best option to raise him. But like I've learned over these months no one cares what kind of life she can give him. They just care that she's BM. And we don't matter because we're just foster parents.

4 comments:

armyadamsgirl said...

chick i am so sorry...it is wrong on so many levels..why would they change the meeting last minute?

No one cares about the Foster parents at all and that is what sucks so bad,

Dream Mommy said...

I'm so sorry. I hate when that happens. I had it happen, but worse, a court hearing for a younger sibling and Bubbles case was dragged into it and important decisions made without us there. Of course, I strongly believe they didn't place sibling with us, so we couldn't attend the hearing.

Contact the child's attorney. Does he have a CASA worker(sometimes, they are more bad than good). You have the right to speak your mind.

Oh yeah, there's also been an instance I was notified of a court hearing with less than two hours notice. The child had to be there, but he was with Smiley and the nurse running errands and couldn't reach her. Talk about being terrified of what I would tell the judge. Thankfully she showed up just in time.

I wish I could tell you this was a rare occasion, but unfortunatley, I cannot. Please hang in there the kids. I know the system stinks.

Of course, when TPR does come around, BM will not be able to say she wasn't given a chance. Call me if you need to vent. Sending hugs.

niobe said...

Oh no. What an awful situation. I know absolutely nothing about how the foster care system works, but I can't see how anyone could think this kind of thing could possibly be in the child's best interests. Thinking of you.

Kristine said...

This makes me so angry, Ashley. How unprofessional of the social worker. Six months does seem like a long time, but if she (bm) hasn't done what's needed yet, it's highly likely she'll flake out again...