Sunday, January 6, 2008


I got my mom's letter yesterday, but I didn't read it until today. It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought, but it wasn't that good either. She kept asking me what's the rush since we haven't been married that long. Robert and I have only been married for 2 years now, but what difference does that make. I must have missed the part in the vows were the preacher asked do we vow to wait X number of years to start a family. I must have been paying attention to something else during that part. She mentioned the whole money thing again, but I already knew that was coming. She just wants us to make sure that we are completely financially stable because kids are very expensive. But we already know that so moving on. One question she kept asking was "Have you given God time to answer your prayers?" My thing is how do you know when He's answered your prayers? Is is when you get what you want? What if you never get what you asked for, is that your answer? Is there a certain amount of time you should wait before you assume that you've gotten your answer? Do you just wait by the phone to see if it ever rings? Is it like waiting for a bus that may or may not ever come? It's not like I've ever gotten a burning bush or a visit from an angel telling me my answer. So how do I know? I think I just have to step out on faith, and pray for God's guidance. I've always gone back to the same scripture over and over: “Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

How do you know when your prayers have been answered?

4 comments:

mesa said...

Ashley- I'm glad your mom's letter isn't so bad. Really, I think God is guiding you to this. Otherwise, he may not have taken Maddie. That's what I have to believe in our adoption journey. I feel that we are meant to adopt and if Ella was here we wouldn't be going this route but she's not here. God has given us this opportunity and it is what makes us most happy. If that is the case for you then this is what is meant for you. I wish you peace and I pray for your mother's acceptance. love to you

mazigra0925 said...

Ashley - There may never be a right time when things are financially stable - something unexpected is ALWAYS coming up. We don't have the money to do the things that we want but Jackson always is taken care of. I pray that you and Robert get the family that you want and deserve. Jen

niobe said...

This post really touched me. This is exactly the question I struggle with. You've put into words precisely what I've been thinking.

Maybe G-d already has answered my prayers. And the answer is no.

Holly said...

That is an excellent question and one that I don't know the answer to.